What is ash & Honey
A collective for women who are done breaking themselves to keep the peace.
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This is where cycle breakers gather....not to perform healing, but to do the real work of transformation.
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To face what's been avoided.
To integrate what's been abandoned.
To stop outsourcing their power and finally come home to themselves.
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What We Do
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Ash & Honey offers deep transformational coaching, immersive retreats, and curated community experiences for women who have outgrown who they had to become to survive.
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I guide women through identity rebirth after trauma, helping them dismantle survival patterns, reclaim their sovereignty, and create lives rooted in choice, not conditioning.
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Through 1:1 containers, group work, and retreat experiences, we go beyond surface-level healing into the depths where real change happens.
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This Is a Community of Cycle Breakers
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Women who refuse to pass down what was passed to them.
Generational chain breakers willing to walk through the fire so their lineage doesn't have to.
Shadow workers who understand that transformation isn't comfortable—it's necessary.
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We don't bypass the darkness.
We don't spiritually skip over the hard parts.
We face them.
Integrate them.
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And emerge as women who trust themselves completely.
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This is where you stop doing it alone.
Where you stop dimming your truth for fear of being "too much" or "bringing the vibe down."
Where you finally burn away the stories that were never yours to carry.
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What You Can Expect
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Whether you join me in a 1:1 coaching container, attend a community gathering, or step into a retreat experience, the work is always rooted in:
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Shadow Work & Release
Mining the darkness for the gold you've been seeking everywhere else.
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Inner Child Healing
Going to the root—where the patterns were formed—and rewiring from there.
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Identity Transformation
Becoming the woman who doesn't abandon herself. Who doesn't need external validation. Who knows her own truth.
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Reclamation & Empowerment
Calling back the parts of yourself you gave away—and rebuilding from a place of sovereignty.
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We don't just process the past. We create a new future.
Let me guess...
You've done the work.
Read the books.
Hired the healers.
But you keep hitting the same ceiling.
Because here's what no one tells you:
You can't outsource integration.
Lasting change doesn't come from consuming more content or chasing the next breakthrough.
It comes from developing the capacity to meet yourself—fully, without flinching.
To transmute survival patterns into embodied power.
That takes structure. Accountability.
And someone who refuses let you abandon yourself again.
There is a version of you begging to come to life
are you ready to stop surviving and start living
Hi — I'm Melissa.
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Trauma-Informed Life Coach, Embodied Retreat Leader, and Founder of Ash & Honey.
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I work with women who have been running on survival mode for so long, they've forgotten what it feels like to actually live.
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Women whose trauma created patterns that keep them stuck—tolerating "good enough," people-pleasing their way through life, or swinging between functional and barely holding it together.
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I guide women through complete identity transformation using shadow work, nervous system regulation, and inner child healing—so they can stop reacting to life and start creating it.
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If You've Considered Working With Me, You Should Know This:
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This work is not for women who want to dip their toe in.
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It's for women ready to face what they've been avoiding and finally meet the parts of themselves they've been running from.
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The work we do-whether through 1:1 coaching, curated gatherings, or immersive retreats-is deep, potent, and unapologetically honest.
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This is not a quick fix. It's a complete recalibration.
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Here's What I Know:
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Most women are living on autopilot-stuck in the past or anxious about the future, never fully present in their own lives.
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Disconnected from their power.
Reacting instead of creating.
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They've outsourced their healing to everyone but themselves, collecting tools, seeking answers, hoping someone else will finally give them permission to change.
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But no amount of external validation will do what you refuse to do for yourself.
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What I Believe:
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The cycle breaker holds extraordinary power.
Your pain wasn't random. It was preparation.
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Some of us are chosen to break the chain. To walk through the fire so our lineage doesn't have to. To stop abandoning ourselves and finally come home.
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I've made it my mission to help women reclaim their sovereignty-to stop waiting for permission and start trusting the voice inside that's been saying "there's more for you" all along.
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Are You Going to Answer the Call?
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I think you should
MY OFFERS
1:1 Intensive Coaching
​My signature 1:1 Coaching Program is for women who crave IDENTITY REBIRTH after trauma. This is for the woman who knows that she is meant for more, but cannot seem to escape the darkness of her own mind. Its for the woman with deep desire that is unarmed against her own self sabotage.
This is for the woman who is tired of lying to herself and is ready to do the work to UNBECOME who she has always been so that she can discover who she was always meant to be.
podcast
Your free weekly dose of coaching, real talk, and transformation. This is where we get into it all—spirituality, relationships, shadow work, and overcoming trauma. Every episode is an opportunity for free coaching, inside-scoop tools, and raw conversations with incredible guests sharing their own Ash & Honey stories of rising from pain, adversity, and trauma to discover their most authentic, powerful selves on the other side. Learn, heal, and grow—without spending a dime.
Events
​Ash & Honey Events are a collaborative experience. A community where women's voices are encouraged to be exercised. A space to open, expand, cry & release. However, we also play. We allow our inner child to be in full expression, our inner diva shine through and glow in the dark.
These events are where both light and dark co-exist in holy harmony.
​Retreats -
stay tuned for 2026 retreat launch
you don't have to do this alone
The journey to reclaiming YOU after trauma, abuse, generations of pain passed down through the bloodline - it can feel isolating, exhausting, confusing and disconnected.
But it doesn't have to come without immense joy, liberation, laughter, play and pleasure.
That’s what this community is.
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